Sarcasmo said:I've been single for 2 years now, and just don't feel ready to see other people yet. The last one was such a disaster, with such a lack of communication, romance, and all the other things that a relationship should be about that I'm just not looking for anything or anyone at the moment. I wasn't "burned" so to speak, I'm just disillusioned. Other than my incredible little boy, it was a complete waste of my time. I might as well have gone to a movie alone, gone home to masturbate and cry for a while, and then adopted a kid when I was a done.
Bubbles said:Iwish I could get to the point you're at. My problem is I still belive there's a man for me somewhere. Someone who will want to chat about waht goes on in our lives, and does occassional nice surprising things. I have always taken excellent care of the men I care about and never recieved the same in return. I still believe in the romance and I wish I was disillusioned.
Bubbles said:Iwish I could get to the point you're at. My problem is I still belive there's a man for me somewhere. Someone who will want to chat about waht goes on in our lives, and does occassional nice surprising things. I have always taken excellent care of the men I care about and never recieved the same in return. I still believe in the romance and I wish I was disillusioned.
b_sinning said:Candy how long were you married? And how old were you?
Candy said:I am a firm believer that everyone has that person out there for them, it is only a matter of when you will meet. I never thought it would happen to me. My only advice is to keep an open mind when you meet someone, and as soon as you stop looking it will fall into your lap.
WE are now immediate family. We take care of each other in a way I never thought possible. I used to be a very "independant" person who didn't believe in being that girl who came home every night and made sure dinner was on the table.... I have now become that girl.
If that person has not come into your life yet, then there is definatly something to be said for being able to do whatever the hell you want to do, when you want to do it. Enjoy it while it lasts... when you find "the one: you will no longer have that freedom, but if it's the right person you won't even care.
April23 said:Gosh that hit close to home for me. Completely agree.
Candy said:Not to be cheesy but you and Fly are very much like Shawn and I. It's nice to see others like that... I reiterates the fact that it is only a matter of time for everyone to find their soulmate.
Candy said:Not to be cheesy but you and Fly are very much like Shawn and I. It's nice to see others like that... I reiterates the fact that it is only a matter of time for everyone to find their soulmate.
Bubbles said:I'm seeing both of your relationships from single eyes. Rather than give me hope, they both show me what I'll never have. The only men that would treat me like yours do you are men that I have no interest in. The only person who really was what I want, got me and liked me for all my stupid isms. He just isn't ready to settle down with a girlfriend and he probably never will be.
Now I'm stuck wondering if I should lower my physical attraction standards, but I can't see me having a healthy relationship with someone I'm unnatracted to.
Bubbles said:I'm seeing both of your relationships from single eyes. Rather than give me hope, they both show me what I'll never have. The only men that would treat me like yours do you are men that I have no interest in. The only person who really was what I want, got me and liked me for all my stupid isms. He just isn't ready to settle down with a girlfriend and he probably never will be.
Now I'm stuck wondering if I should lower my physical attraction standards, but I can't see me having a healthy relationship with someone I'm unnatracted to.
Sarcasmo said:Don't ever do that. Lowering standards just for the sake of trying to shorten your singlehood is not only the wrong reason to do so, but it's a great way to have even more shitty relationships that you don't care about.
Just be yourself. Live life with your head held high, and some guy will eventually see you and say "Why can't I find a girl like that?"
April23 said:It's true. I didn't believe in the concept of soul-mates until I met him.
You can't look for a soulmate either, it just has to (like you said) fall into your lap.
Drool-Boy said:The only thing I really miss about being single is being able to take big steamy dumps with the door open.
itburnswhenipee said:Bah. Soulmates are made, not found.