Kiki brought this thread up because all the other soccer moms at the playground are too soft and don't get this. Might not specifically apply to you, but to most moms.
I am not as familiar with this group of parents with fighting since it really doesn't happen that much. In general if a kid punches, the others seem to push back and try to get away more than really getting into it back. Like a lot of times it is just a single punch or two from a kid, and not another pummeling the other.
However at the last school it seemed the moms who didn't believe in having their kids defend themselves were the ones with the horrible kids who started shit left and right. They believed that their kids could do no wrong. In fact I had it out with the director of the school last year because one mom was all worried that her precious boy got pinched by my kid even though he was hitting mine with a wooden train on his hand.
The director pissed me off to a higher level that I've ever been and when she said "if you don't think we are doing a good job, why are you still here?" I told her I reached my level and left that day and never returned.
There isn't just a black and white IMO when it comes to kids fighting. A hit isn't always a very violent thing and doesn't always require a punch back. I've watched a few times where my kid was hit or punched or something and the other kid just kind of bounced off. He can defend himself if needed, but after dealing with some physically violent crap at a younger age, I do not ever believe that a hit always requires a hit back.
Now sometimes a bully needs to be put in his place, but even physically fighting back doesn't always work. Sometimes it can, but other times it doesn't. My kid completely knocked a smaller but bullying kid down a handful of times and it never stopped. My dad tackled a kid on the playground and beat him up a bit and it did stop. So it's not a sure thing.
Why are your panties so tightly wound? All I said was that moms tend to coddle too much. If you don't believe that then I don't know what to tell you. Men are the fighters in our species and have been for about 100,000 years. Stop being so sensitive.
You called me an idiot so I called you one back. Seriously don't take well to that. And read above to see why I feel how I do. You are a sexist jerk though and I'll stand by that.