Double standard

[Dharma1521]

I know I definitely have sex toys cause I'm single and overweight.

Sex toys simply add to the experience for me, they don't replace it. Also, Knyte is hornier then me. I can't imagine having to be around everytime he needs it. It's nice to know he can go take care of himself sometimes and if he wants a toy to help, more power to him.

You are so hot.

 

[Sarcasmo]

I am a sex camel.

 

[kiwi]

You are so hot.

You too baby.

 

[Duke]

I am a sex camel.

You save up the memories of the last few times you got it to help you get through the dry times?

 

[Mean Mr. Mustard]

No he does it dromedary style.

 

[JAXvillain]

No he does it dromedary style.

2 humps and he's through?

 

[Duke]

He's a 2 pump chump?

 

[Shalimar]

2 humps and he's through?

might only make one right here...

 

[reverendsaintjay]

Two things, if I'm allowed to drive this topic back on course.

Not really. The women I've known in my life who have had lots of sex toys have been overweight and single most time, nothing shallow about stating that little fact. And it's also not shallow to state that it's my opinion that men with sex aids are pretty sad. No boyfriend of mine would need aids, there's a perfectly capable woman right here thank you very much. And I have nothing against looking at porn and stuff, but men with extensive porno collections are sad too in my mind.

There is not a perfectly capable woman there for him. Sure, you're perfectly capable at having sex with him, but he is also at your whim for when it happens, how it happens, why it happens, etc. Bad day at work? Feeling a bit bloated? Got that "not so fresh feeling"? Any number of things can work against you being perfectly capable of handling his business.

Now, all of the circumstances behind why you can't/don't have sex with him pale in comparison to the real reason guys masturbate.

Sex is a two person game. You have to be considerate of the needs of your partner, you have to "perform", you have to be cognizant of a thousand different things while you are having sex. At no point in your relationship are you allowed to just 'hit it and quit', that violates the terms of the sexual agreement you both entered when the relationship turned physical.

Guys whack off because we don't care if our right hand came when we did. We don't have to cuddle with it, or try not to muss it's hair, or agree to go to it's mother's house next weekend. Our right hand will never ask us to get out of a warm bed because it left a light on in the kitchen, or because it needs a glass of water. We masturbate because it's the one thing in this world that can be done completely by ourselves, for ourselves.

Now, with that all said, on to point two.

I'm probably not a hugely sexual person, hence why I just don't get the need to look at porn and wank off all day long. But then I just think there's better/more important things to do with your time than think about sex and masturbate/fuck all day long.

You claim not to understand why it's a double standard, yet you exemplify the worst parts of said double standard with every post you write. You say that no boyfriend of yours would need 'help', but you have better things to do with your time than fuck all day long? What happened to having a perfectly capable woman there for him?

I have dated women who have had problems with my porn habit. Problems based on their own self-doubt, self-loathing and their own personal feelings of inadequacy. I married the woman that was perfectly fine with what I do behind closed doors.

 

[b_sinning]

I always use my thumb. Is that wrong?

I bet you typical win at thumb wars due to you fighting dirty.

 

[Duke]

An opening move like a dirty sanchez guarantees a win every time.

 

[plot]

one more thing nme, sometimes guys dont want to get their girl involved... sometimes it's easier just to do it themselves, get it out of the way, and move on with their day. its nothing against their gf/wife/whatever... theres just times when they want to ejaculate and get on with the rest of the daily chores or whatever.

 

[Mean Mr. Mustard]

An opening move like a dirty sanchez guarantees a win every time.

And end things with a hot carl.
Perfect date.

 

[plot]

the hairy monkey is my preferred finishing move.

 

[eileenbunny]

Actually I said women with such things usually are single and overweight, if that != loser then tell me what does. And what I don't get is what men projecting the image of sexy if you have sex toys has to do with the general fact that men with sex toys are losers. Men who have tons of toys are losers, pretty factual rite? It's your perogative if you want to see women in the same situation in a different light. Nothing to do with standards.

Hmmm, I guess I'm single and overweight. Sorry IBWIP.

But how many of those % have htem because their boyfriends brought them for them? I'd say a lot.

He didn't buy me any of them. I bought them all.

i cant imagine what it would be like to be clueless, sexless AND bitter.
eeeekkkk.

Me neither. I'm just bitter!



I sure hope IBWIP takes care of business on his own. I'm not always available. I hope he has an active fantasy life, favorite porn, and toys if he wants them. I would never call him a loser for any of that. He's a great guy, he takes good care of me and I want him to be sexually satisfied in any way he needs it.

 

[plot]

I sure hope IBWIP takes care of business on his own. I'm not always available. I hope he has an active fantasy life, favorite porn, and toys if he wants them. I would never call him a loser for any of that. He's a great guy, he takes good care of me and I want him to be sexually satisfied in any way he needs it.

what if he needs it with a cheap hooker?

 

[eileenbunny]

what if he needs it with a cheap hooker?

I hope he wears a condom.

 

[ZRH]

Two things, if I'm allowed to drive this topic back on course.

There is not a perfectly capable woman there for him. Sure, you're perfectly capable at having sex with him, but he is also at your whim for when it happens, how it happens, why it happens, etc. Bad day at work? Feeling a bit bloated? Got that "not so fresh feeling"? Any number of things can work against you being perfectly capable of handling his business.

That is situationally dependent on the individuals involved. You only know who you know so you really dont know how it goes for everyone else. Not saying it isnt true in some cases but you cant apply it to all of them.

Now, all of the circumstances behind why you can't/don't have sex with him pale in comparison to the real reason guys masturbate.

You again dont speak for everyone.

Sex is a two person game. You have to be considerate of the needs of your partner, you have to "perform", you have to be cognizant of a thousand different things while you are having sex. At no point in your relationship are you allowed to just 'hit it and quit', that violates the terms of the sexual agreement you both entered when the relationship turned physical.

You have issues. "Game" "perform", those are things usually associated with competitive sports, or work, not a healthy relationship in my mind. Though you can argue the meaning of healthy, for emphasis I'd not get involved with anyone where putting your game face on is involved in any interaction.

Guys whack off because we don't care if our right hand came when we did. We don't have to cuddle with it, or try not to muss it's hair, or agree to go to it's mother's house next weekend.

Again, with the power and control theme. It's not a game. Don't for any second think you speak for everyone.

Our right hand will never ask us to get out of a warm bed because it left a light on in the kitchen, or because it needs a glass of water. We masturbate because it's the one thing in this world that can be done completely by ourselves, for ourselves.

Common considerations, that mean nothing somehow evolving into one thing you can do for yourself? You need to get out more. There are plenty of things that require absolutely no human interaction. The part about normal consideration coming into play in some sort of grand power struggle is for people who cant deal with each other as equals.

Now, with that all said, on to point two.

You claim not to understand why it's a double standard, yet you exemplify the worst parts of said double standard with every post you write. You say that no boyfriend of yours would need 'help', but you have better things to do with your time than fuck all day long? What happened to having a perfectly capable woman there for him?

Doesnt pertain to me so not answering it. >.>

I have dated women who have had problems with my porn habit. Problems based on their own self-doubt, self-loathing and their own personal feelings of inadequacy. I married the woman that was perfectly fine with what I do behind closed doors.

"Closed doors", again with the 'struggle' for dominance. You get along, that works for you, dont think it applies to everyone. You found someone who can deal with you, not a rule of the universe.

 

[shawndavid]

That is situationally dependent on the individuals involved. You only know who you know so you really dont know how it goes for everyone else. Not saying it isnt true in some cases but you cant apply it to all of them.


You again dont speak for everyone.


You have issues. "Game" "perform", those are things usually associated with competitive sports, or work, not a healthy relationship in my mind. Though you can argue the meaning of healthy, for emphasis I'd not get involved with anyone where putting your game face on is involved in any interaction.


Again, with the power and control theme. It's not a game. Don't for any second think you speak for everyone.


Common considerations, that mean nothing somehow evolving into one thing you can do for yourself? You need to get out more. There are plenty of things that require absolutely no human interaction. The part about normal consideration coming into play in some sort of grand power struggle is for people who cant deal with each other as equals.



Doesnt pertain to me so not answering it. >.>


"Closed doors", again with the 'struggle' for dominance. You get along, that works for you, dont think it applies to everyone. You found someone who can deal with you, not a rule of the universe.

omg lolz

we have an intarnets winner! you may all unplug your modems

 

[Duke]

I for one can sleep well at night knowing ZRH is standing by to defend the faith about male sexual perception.