Two things, if I'm allowed to drive this topic back on course.
Not really. The women I've known in my life who have had lots of sex toys have been overweight and single most time, nothing shallow about stating that little fact. And it's also not shallow to state that it's my opinion that men with sex aids are pretty sad. No boyfriend of mine would need aids, there's a perfectly capable woman right here thank you very much. And I have nothing against looking at porn and stuff, but men with extensive porno collections are sad too in my mind.
There is not a perfectly capable woman there for him. Sure, you're perfectly capable at having sex with him, but he is also at your whim for when it happens, how it happens, why it happens, etc. Bad day at work? Feeling a bit bloated? Got that "not so fresh feeling"? Any number of things can work against you being perfectly capable of handling his business.
Now, all of the circumstances behind why you can't/don't have sex with him pale in comparison to the real reason guys masturbate.
Sex is a two person game. You have to be considerate of the needs of your partner, you have to "perform", you have to be cognizant of a thousand different things while you are having sex. At no point in your relationship are you allowed to just 'hit it and quit', that violates the terms of the sexual agreement you both entered when the relationship turned physical.
Guys whack off because we don't care if our right hand came when we did. We don't have to cuddle with it, or try not to muss it's hair, or agree to go to it's mother's house next weekend. Our right hand will never ask us to get out of a warm bed because it left a light on in the kitchen, or because it needs a glass of water. We masturbate because it's the one thing in this world that can be done completely by ourselves, for ourselves.
Now, with that all said, on to point two.
I'm probably not a hugely sexual person, hence why I just don't get the need to look at porn and wank off all day long. But then I just think there's better/more important things to do with your time than think about sex and masturbate/fuck all day long.
You claim not to understand why it's a double standard, yet you exemplify the worst parts of said double standard with every post you write. You say that no boyfriend of yours would need 'help', but you have better things to do with your time than fuck all day long? What happened to having a perfectly capable woman there for him?
I have dated women who have had problems with my porn habit. Problems based on their own self-doubt, self-loathing and their own personal feelings of inadequacy. I married the woman that was perfectly fine with what I do behind closed doors.