Agreed, and that's how we were dealt with as kids. Instead of a smack (because socially unacceptable) we remove them from public. The result is the same. They can sit in the car and scream themselves hoarse for all I care. As long as it's not in the public place to cause others suffering. At home, a smack is immediate if required. Most of the time sending them to stand in the corner is enough by itself.
We had this same thought process as well. We didn't want to teach the threat of violence as motivation. Gotta keep them on their toes, change up the punishment every once in a while.
As adults we see the difference. A child cannot see this and will respond the same regardless of circumstance.
We have a 5 year old girl and a 3 year old boy. The girl at 3 was capable of understanding that type of logic, the boy isn't even close. Gotta use what works for your kid(s). Mine sometimes need a few minutes of reflection.
Dated a couple when I was younger. I had a phase where I wanted to be with a more experienced woman. Scary stuff indeed. It's usually apparent why they're a single parent pretty quick.
Yeah, good luck with that looking to settle down thing. At least you're moving on when the crazy comes out
