someone help me
- Thread starter Thorn Bird
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Theres a very good possibility I can't have kids.I didn't read any further then the first page.
Thorn Bird, I totally understand where you are coming from. The difference is, I'm still not married (but only a month away) and we have both decided that we want to wait 2 years. Which was quite possibly the hardest decision of my life. But I know its for the best.
I've got baby fever coming out the ying yang. Maybe part of that reason is because I truly feel my calling in life is to be a mother and a wife. I have never felt the urge to have a huge carreer or a ton of degrees, but ALWAYS have I felt the desire to be a mother.
As you said earlier, a person will NEVER have enough money for children. Heck my parents are STILL blaming me for all the things they never had
But much like Thorn Bird said, as long as my family is fed, and my children are happy, that's all I need.
Thorn Bird, I totally understand where you are coming from. The difference is, I'm still not married (but only a month away) and we have both decided that we want to wait 2 years. Which was quite possibly the hardest decision of my life. But I know its for the best.
I've got baby fever coming out the ying yang. Maybe part of that reason is because I truly feel my calling in life is to be a mother and a wife. I have never felt the urge to have a huge carreer or a ton of degrees, but ALWAYS have I felt the desire to be a mother.
As you said earlier, a person will NEVER have enough money for children. Heck my parents are STILL blaming me for all the things they never had
But much like Thorn Bird said, as long as my family is fed, and my children are happy, that's all I need.It's possible, however, it's been my experience that anytime I see a baby in person my biological clock turns backwards.elpmis said:
For example, after my niece was born, I went down to visit her. She was only a few months old and I was holding her... till she started crying... what do I do? I hold her out at arms length in a panic saying, "Its crying, come take it, it's crying" to my mom and sister-in-law's horror. "It"
I'm just not good with babies.
I believe whether we want to have kids or not is all in how we were raisedzengirl said:It's possible, however, it's been my experience that anytime I see a baby in person my biological clock turns backwards.
For example, after my niece was born, I went down to visit her. She was only a few months old and I was holding her... till she started crying... what do I do? I hold her out at arms length in a panic saying, "Its crying, come take it, it's crying" to my mom and sister-in-law's horror. "It"
I'm just not good with babies.
There are certain people who shouldn't have kids. I'm not going to stop them or try to talk them out of it, but I wish they'd realize it.elpmis said:
whew!
i think it is hard for people to choose not to have children. i have friends who are doing just this, and seem almost apologetic to me about it. why apologize? i admire people who know they don't want to have kids. it's equally as hard to NOT get pregnant as it is to raise kids! if you know you can't dedicate your life to parenting, then why do it? that's a good call.
spange and i mulled it over for years before we did it, just to make sure it's what we really wanted to do. i think it is WRONG to intentionally have kids if you don't have anything better to do or if you think it'll make you fit in more or whatever. THAT is selfish. having kids for the right reason is NOT selfish, and NOT having kids does not make you selfish. it makes you smart if you don't want to be parents! everyone needs to be smart and honest when it comes to children. they aren't something to take lightly and you can't put 'em back.
there are pros and cons of having kids, of course. you should know this before you take on the responsibilities of parenting. it is a simpler life without them, and that's a fact. but choosing one way or another does not make you any more of a person. if you choose smartly, correctly, than you are bettering yourself, regardless of what choice it is.
i think it is hard for people to choose not to have children. i have friends who are doing just this, and seem almost apologetic to me about it. why apologize? i admire people who know they don't want to have kids. it's equally as hard to NOT get pregnant as it is to raise kids! if you know you can't dedicate your life to parenting, then why do it? that's a good call.
spange and i mulled it over for years before we did it, just to make sure it's what we really wanted to do. i think it is WRONG to intentionally have kids if you don't have anything better to do or if you think it'll make you fit in more or whatever. THAT is selfish. having kids for the right reason is NOT selfish, and NOT having kids does not make you selfish. it makes you smart if you don't want to be parents! everyone needs to be smart and honest when it comes to children. they aren't something to take lightly and you can't put 'em back.
there are pros and cons of having kids, of course. you should know this before you take on the responsibilities of parenting. it is a simpler life without them, and that's a fact. but choosing one way or another does not make you any more of a person. if you choose smartly, correctly, than you are bettering yourself, regardless of what choice it is.
I really like youSp`ange
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I like being a father. best thing I've ever done, but it it's cool if you don't want kids and you don't have them. but to not give a fuck one way or the other and don't choose, then it's a bad thing.
