So ever since I've come to college I've found a bit of difficulty in associating. In general I spend my nights with myself and on occasion hang out with one other guy who lets me do laundry at his apartment, and we might split an apartment next year...but my friendship with him is an exception.
I've always known there was a problem to some degree, whether it be my size (I'm a large guy) or my general lack of school spirit. Don't get me wrong, I like my school, but I like my school for academic reasons. While other people care about the football game I care about the advancement we just got in research rating and how we move in the rankings academically. For what it's worth in addendum to being a large guy, I wear pretty casual clothes (cheap as I can find them), have long-ish hair, and generally love just about any kind of humor. I can laugh at inside political jokes that would take some knowledge to understand and I can laugh at Super Troopers or Harold & Kumar.
It should be noted that I'm not quiet and reserved. I'm usually one of the most outspoken persons in my classes, I love getting into conversations and debates. truly most of my social interaction on a day-to-day basis comes from in-class discussions. Outside of class I've always had problems keeping conversations up for an extended period and I've never quite fingered the cause.
Today, however, I was discussing this with a girl I've known for awhile. She put it pretty succintly and got to the point. She said she felt like she was talking to one of her professors when she was talking to me. She continued by explaining that there was just something about my demeanor and whatnot that made it odd to talk about some antics at a party or some other goings on .
The question is, of course, how does one become less "professor like." I'm not going to suddenly start butchering every attempt at grammar I come across. I don't really drink all that much, and when I do, I keep it reasonable.
Why is it wrong to be proper and carry yourself well?
I've always known there was a problem to some degree, whether it be my size (I'm a large guy) or my general lack of school spirit. Don't get me wrong, I like my school, but I like my school for academic reasons. While other people care about the football game I care about the advancement we just got in research rating and how we move in the rankings academically. For what it's worth in addendum to being a large guy, I wear pretty casual clothes (cheap as I can find them), have long-ish hair, and generally love just about any kind of humor. I can laugh at inside political jokes that would take some knowledge to understand and I can laugh at Super Troopers or Harold & Kumar.
It should be noted that I'm not quiet and reserved. I'm usually one of the most outspoken persons in my classes, I love getting into conversations and debates. truly most of my social interaction on a day-to-day basis comes from in-class discussions. Outside of class I've always had problems keeping conversations up for an extended period and I've never quite fingered the cause.
Today, however, I was discussing this with a girl I've known for awhile. She put it pretty succintly and got to the point. She said she felt like she was talking to one of her professors when she was talking to me. She continued by explaining that there was just something about my demeanor and whatnot that made it odd to talk about some antics at a party or some other goings on .
The question is, of course, how does one become less "professor like." I'm not going to suddenly start butchering every attempt at grammar I come across. I don't really drink all that much, and when I do, I keep it reasonable.
Why is it wrong to be proper and carry yourself well?