Think about it, keep in mind when the kid hits 18... paying for college v. retirement
You should be saving for retirement both long before, long after, and during when you have a kid. It shouldnt be one or the other.
I dont even had kids yet, and i have an account started for their college funds, in addition to my retirement due to realizing what a ridiculously large expense it is. I dont even want to tell my kid that he or she cant go to a school they really want to because we cant afford it. And i dont want them to be crippled with debt either.
Where i run into problems, is multiple kids. I can save for one no problem, two gets hard, and three is borderline impossible.
three here
my wife is 40 and she feels she is too old since she doesn't want to be paying for college when we should be planning retirement trips
my problem maybe it seems abstract at this point but her message is valid
on the other hand, so many are having kids in their 40's nowadays... wonder how all that goes down when they hit 60
go to the mall or out to eat...see how kids treat parents...get fixed immediately...
I think that's only fair for your wife. It's not about paying so much as being able to enjoy your life without kids in the home as you get older, I'm sure it's quite a nice feeling for many parents when their kids leave the nest. Bitter sweet for sure but there must be some enjoyment iin getting your life back, have another kid and that plan gets set back 5, 6, 7 years or whatever it is. I know my mother worked damn hard and didn't do much for herself until I was quite a bit older, now she doesn't have young kids running around she can relax a lot more.
Not if you ask DJB it aintbittersweet is the word, from what I hear sending kids away is incredibly depressing
I think that's only fair for your wife. It's not about paying so much as being able to enjoy your life without kids in the home as you get older, I'm sure it's quite a nice feeling for many parents when their kids leave the nest. Bitter sweet for sure but there must be some enjoyment iin getting your life back, have another kid and that plan gets set back 5, 6, 7 years or whatever it is. I know my mother worked damn hard and didn't do much for herself until I was quite a bit older, now she doesn't have young kids running around she can relax a lot more.
If you're in the NFL, gotta have your nine kids by 25.
why just his wife. We arent talking the biological stress of having a child that covers a 9 month period here, we're talking the long term things, which puts equal stress on both parents.
Why you gotta assume his wife will do all the childrearing..... sexist
why just his wife. We arent talking the biological stress of having a child that covers a 9 month period here, we're talking the long term things, which puts equal stress on both parents.
Why you gotta assume his wife will do all the childrearing..... sexist