i've buried countless friends and relatives. having someone ask me if there's anything they can do to help is comforting, even if there's nothing they can do. when my grandmother died, i could barely function, and was on meds for a while to help me calm down. i'll never forget the kindness that my friends and other relatives exhibited when i needed them most, doing stuff from cooking and sharing notes with me to keeping me company until 3am some nights because i couldn't sleep. i knew that my grandmother was gone, and no one could do anything about that, but helping me cope and get back to normal life was something they could do. i'd gladly offer that kind of help and comfort to any of my friends and loved ones going through what i went through