Exactly. It's not about what we want him to be, but rather what he wants himself to be. And to be whatever that is he has to do something. I'm almost 30 and still don't know exactly what I want to be. But I sure as hell know what I don't want to be, and I'm doing what it take not to be that!
I know...I'm seeing it all now. The talking just doesn't work, he has to be forced...