WTF Star Trek poonanners

Getting back to the original question, we (the viewers) might have found out had the writers of Voyager played out that relationship with Ensign Kim and the hologram.
 
The female characters in Star Trek are limited to passive, non-threatening, non-assertive roles; when assertive or aggressive, female character signify, and are signified as, evil.
-Sexualite et roles sexuels stereotypes dans "Star Trek"

So yeah, holodeck is pretty much the ideal woman in Star Trek universe.