eileenbunny
Druish Princess
I think the argument is for couples that actually want to have a healthy and active sex life.
Taking the pill or any sort of hormone treatment for birth control carries certain risks with it, not the least of which is an increased risk of cancer. Stroke, blood clots, increased potassium, thyroid issues, pituitary gland issues, and development of cysts are some of the serious risks of taking hormones, and these complications aren't as uncommon as you would think.
IUD's can be dangerous because of it can get imbedded in the uterine wall, or cause serious infection, or cause a hole in the uterus, or cause an ectopic pregnancy. All of those conditions can be fatal or make you have to have your bits scooped out.
The morning after pill should not ever be considered a form of ongoing birth control because of the serious risks associated with taking that all the time, not to mention how uncomfortable you'd be as a woman taking that all the time. Common side effects are severe cramping, nausea, vomiting, dizziness, headaches, bleeding and breast tenderness. It changes your cervix, uterine lining and ovarian function, so that's not really a good idea to do all the time.
Then there's condoms. Do you like condoms? They are uncomfortable and associated with increases in vaginal infections and soreness at the very least.
There's things like the sponge and other spermicidal blocks. They aren't as effective as the other forms of birth control discussed here, but can be an option for committed couples who don't really mind the idea that there's a small risk of pregnancy. It does tend to take the spontaneity out of sex since most of these methods require you to insert and wait 10 minutes or more but not more than an hour before using. Also, sometimes the spermicide winds up getting in the penis and causing severe discomfort. One person once told me it felt like a glass rod had been shoved up there and then broken.
There's diaphragms and cervical caps which are also less effective and a pain in the butt to use not to mention that they can cause vaginal infections.
Then we talk about surgeries that permanently or semi-permanently make conception near impossible. Someone else has already discussed these two options here. One's a super invasive surgery and the other isn't. One is easily reversible and the other isn't. They obviously aren't recommended for couples that haven't had children yet and all the risks of surgery apply.
The big point here is this: Not one of these forms of birth control asks more of the man than it does of the woman. We haven't even begun to address the fact that women are the ones who will suffer the major consequences if the chosen method doesn't work. We are the ones who have to get pregnant. We are the ones who suffer permanent changes to our bodies because of that. Asking a man to get a minor surgery after all that doesn't really seem like a big deal to me. We want to have sex too, but we don't always want to be the ones to suffer the consequences of that choice. For a man to say "yes, I too want a healthy sex life in our relationship but I'm not willing to do anything to that end" seems like a big cop-out to me.
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Could you imagine being a child conceived that way?
