This is exactly what I thought/sometimes still think about my life with my ex.
I look to the positive side:
1. I grew up with him/learned a lot. Even though I was pretty darned driven before I met him, was in college and had strong goals, without him coming into my life, I might or might not have gone through alcoholism/drug use, like my mom did, just because this pattern is so strong in my family. I pride myself on choosing to care for my kids, instead of being pissed off at my life and partying, leaving my kids to suffer.
2. He pushed me to pursue real estate and together, we learned a ton, and I cannot imagine working in any other industry today.
3. I know a shit ton of home improvement shit because of him, and being so hands on.
4. Last - but most important - When I forced separation on him, & he complied. He moved to his parents. I think that, if it wasn't for this separation, I'd have gone through more years of being married to someone that I truly did not know. I learned who he REALLY was throughout this separation. And AFTER my divorce, I learned that he had one night stands the whole time we were married. Even though this took a while to "get over" the feeling of "our whole marriage was a lie" I feel it's pushed me to move on and be comfortable with my life with Liam. It's why I ended up finally marrying him.
Things happen for a reason. Look beyond the sunset and see the next sunrise, where new changes and opportunities are bound to be there for you!!
PEE ESSif you've made it this far, thanks for readning my wall of textorz!