You guys ever see The Simpsons when they go on a Singles rampage, good stuff.
Marge Versus Singles, Seniors, Childless Couples, Teens and Gays
Marge Versus Singles, Seniors, Childless Couples, Teens and Gays
Milk Junkie
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I will try to put it in words but make no promises my ramblings will make sense.
I think there is definitely a natural drive that leads me to want kids in the first place. As for the number, I don't know, that's just how I feel, there really isn't any explanation for it. In my case I'm sure my upbringing has a lot to do with it. I've just always wanted children, being a mom has been my ultimate goal. Being trusted with these little souls to raise and teach and guide is a huge priviledge for me and you really don't understand how much you can love someone until you have kids. I love Knyte with all my heart and never doubt that, but kids is just a different kind of love, one you can't experience any other way (and I feel that is either if you actually bear the children or through adoption). Religion also plays a part in it, I believe there are a set amount of souls that all need to come to this earth (obviously its a very high set amount) and if I can provide some of them with a comfortable loving home I will do that, aside from the commandment thing.
Dharma1521
Soooo do I look as young as I look?
Sometimes people want them and sometimes people don't. Yet the people who say they don't .. when confronted with having one .. usually grow quite accustomed to the idea .. and after it is born .. they totally forget about having not ever wanted one. Not always, but most often that happens.
Gay couples adopt kids because one or both decide they want kids, even though they can't always make one themselves .. it's definately not a heterosexual thing to want kids.
It's just a breeder thing. It's that simple.
gay couple adoption has become a huge thing here at work...very popular and becoming quite frequent
good post.
i, too, have always wanted to be a mother. i feel it is in me to be one, and i feel i am good at it. it all comes very natural to me, and it's just who i am.
before spange and i had kids, we thought very seriously about doing it. we weighed the options and what-ifs, we compared our hypothetical "with kids" lives to our "without kids" lives. either way you go, there are sacrifices. we chose the path we did.
people have been asking me since i got pregnant with grey if this was our last or not. then when we had a boy, people assume that we are done, having a boy and a girl. i can in no way answer if we are done or not. that does not mean we are having another, that does not mean we WON'T have another. it's just too early to tell. there are many factors that go into having a child...and you have to weigh them each time you decide to try again.
for me, i come from a family of four kids. i can't IMAGINE not having my siblings. that would be a reason for me to have a big family (not that i'm having four!) but i think it's like kiwi said...a lot can have something to do with the kind of family you were raised up in. it's familiar.
i do not have kids so they will take care of me. i do not have kids because our families ask for it (and neither side ever has..there's never been pressure for grandkids). i do not have kids to carry on a family name. i have kids because i wanted to be a mom. i wanted to be a mom because there's no other challenge out there like being a parent. i could put myself in any situation and be able to learn a trade/profession/skill, but being a parent seemed like the biggest challenge to me. i wanted to be a mom because i've always wanted to be one. and yes, it's indescribable to be one, and the love that comes from being a mom is so fierce and fiery and determined and heartbreaking and overwhelming and intimidating and driving and powerful.
not every person is meant to procreate. not every person has the drive to have/want/do kids. and the people i most highly respect are the ones who take this very seriously and actively pursue NOT getting pregnant. kids shoudln't be a roll of the dice for people. they should not be the result of careless sex. it's one thing to want kids and let it happen as it may...it's another to not really want them but to not be careful with sex and end up with them. it's not hard to find some sort of birth control.
and with that, i'll stop my soapbox. but you asked.
It is instinct to protect your young even though you didn't want them in the first place. No way to get around that.
How do you explain the parents that beat/shake/starve their children to death then? Or molest them? Or give them up for adoption because they can't deal with them? Or leave them in dumpsters, sidewalks, vacat lots, abandoned cars, ect instead of dropping them off at a hospital or police station/firehouse?
98% of the human population fall under the "noramlity" rules .. but you'll always have that percentage that need to be dipped in a vat of acid up to their knee caps.
good post.
i, too, have always wanted to be a mother. i feel it is in me to be one, and i feel i am good at it. it all comes very natural to me, and it's just who i am.
before spange and i had kids, we thought very seriously about doing it. we weighed the options and what-ifs, we compared our hypothetical "with kids" lives to our "without kids" lives. either way you go, there are sacrifices. we chose the path we did.
people have been asking me since i got pregnant with grey if this was our last or not. then when we had a boy, people assume that we are done, having a boy and a girl. i can in no way answer if we are done or not. that does not mean we are having another, that does not mean we WON'T have another. it's just too early to tell. there are many factors that go into having a child...and you have to weigh them each time you decide to try again.
for me, i come from a family of four kids. i can't IMAGINE not having my siblings. that would be a reason for me to have a big family (not that i'm having four!) but i think it's like kiwi said...a lot can have something to do with the kind of family you were raised up in. it's familiar.
i do not have kids so they will take care of me. i do not have kids because our families ask for it (and neither side ever has..there's never been pressure for grandkids). i do not have kids to carry on a family name. i have kids because i wanted to be a mom. i wanted to be a mom because there's no other challenge out there like being a parent. i could put myself in any situation and be able to learn a trade/profession/skill, but being a parent seemed like the biggest challenge to me. i wanted to be a mom because i've always wanted to be one. and yes, it's indescribable to be one, and the love that comes from being a mom is so fierce and fiery and determined and heartbreaking and overwhelming and intimidating and driving and powerful.
not every person is meant to procreate. not every person has the drive to have/want/do kids. and the people i most highly respect are the ones who take this very seriously and actively pursue NOT getting pregnant. kids shoudln't be a roll of the dice for people. they should not be the result of careless sex. it's one thing to want kids and let it happen as it may...it's another to not really want them but to not be careful with sex and end up with them. it's not hard to find some sort of birth control.
and with that, i'll stop my soapbox. but you asked.
You only had kids so you could name them Spanglett and ThornBabyBird
ficst
Muahahahhahah, I just couldnt think of anything good
I was like Thorn Baby, BabyThornlette, YARGGGGGGGGGGGGGGG!
Dharma1521
Soooo do I look as young as I look?
Muahahahhahah, I just couldnt think of anything good
I was like Thorn Baby, BabyThornlette, YARGGGGGGGGGGGGGGG!
Listen bitch we already chose the name.
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