I don't want to cut her out completely/go no- contact, & I want to be able to send her pics of the bb, & because she's already my friend there and we have mutuals, there's no way to block her where she won't figure it out and she WILL have a meltdown.
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Jehannum
Puts the "pro" in procrastination
I'm so glad my parents aren't on the MyFaces because of this.
I get annoyed enough just reading the ridiculous conspiracy theory emails that I "reply-all" with a single link to snopes' debunking.
every time I tell her to calm the fuck down (including the time I literally said "calm the fuck down") I get some version of "I'm soooooo sorry I care soooooo much" & some hysterics/guilt tripping, & then she behaves for a week or so and gets back on her bullshit. she also thinks "not to x, but" negates the thing ("not to bother you, but <bothers you>" or she asks an invasive or inappropriate question followed with "not bugging you, just asking") or gives flimsy justification (in the screenshots above, she hadn't heard back from me bc no internet so she justified her 20+ message initiations with "I'm only asking because it's been 3 days since we chatted")
Jehannum
Puts the "pro" in procrastination
I didnt respond to her earlier messages, so she waited until she saw me go "online" in messenger and sent the second set of messages about going out - what might seem to the casual observer and she'd swear up and down is just being nice is actually her prying to find out if I have service at home yet/letting me know she sees I'm online
We share pics with my family via Instagram. You can comment on instagram but it seems way less dramatic than FB. I deactive my facebook for months at a time, never post, and have it set for things on my wall to be approved. I never approve anything. I basically only keep it for messenger.
An even better method for sharing pics with family is GroupMe. No public comments. No drama being published to your friends or boss.
oh, you only have to go "up the road" to get service? cool, I'm gonna ask you to do it a bunch to talk to me and guilt you if you don't (despite that going up the road would involve packing up a newborn every time)
my wife had to have a serious talk with her mom, who liked to call every morning to chat. My wife runs a pretty busy business and mornings are often hectic, and her mom just wasn't getting the message. My wife would not answer the phone sometimes and would get inundated with "Is everything ok?" messages, to the point where she'd call my wife's bsiness and ask the staff. When my wife explained that she's often quite busy in the mornings, "What time of day should I call?" was her answer. So my wife had to explain that she really doesn't have a specific time every day to just shoot the shit about nothing for an hour or so. If you have something to say, call. Or just send a message saying "call me when you get a chance" - which has been the best course of action so far.
It has a lot to do with her mom's need to be a caretaker. It's how she defined herself for decades. She has a hard time just figuring out what to do with her time since her son moved out (in his late 30s no less) and her mother passing away.
I've had the "just leave a message and I'll get back when I can" talk a lot but she doesn't give up & doesn't grasp how fucking EXHAUSTING she is to where I may be up for casually posting on friends' stuff but not talking to her
when I do relent and get to talking with her, the conversation is essentially an interrogation with her asking me questions she thinks I'm keeping info from her on. and sometimes I am, but like with good reason - she has ZERO fucking chill, clearly. she also likes to give unsolicited advice and I'm not allowed to have ANY reaction, because if it's bad advice or something I've already considered/tried she gets mad and defensive and IM JUST TRYING TO HELP AND YOU HATE ME about it, and if I just go along with it/agree to check into it, she (rightly) accuses me of being patronizing
I'm sure glad my MIL has no internet access. The phone never stops ringing as it is. I can't imagine what it would be like if she could track us down that way.
She does like to talk about pooping for some reason. I should get her set up here.
She does like to talk about pooping for some reason. I should get her set up here.
we had the old "if i have any questions, i will ask you" talk when being pestered with unsolicited advice.
we also had to throw out a "look how it turned out for you" comment about how we choose to raise our son, while her son lived at home well into his 30s
Just tell her you're not using Facebook for a while as a way to take a break from social media and tell her you'll be using a different platform for messaging and sharing pics. Deactivate FB for a week or two and maybe she will be used to the new method by then.
Honestly if it were me I'd block her on FB when reactivating or right before but I could see why you might not want to do that.
Mean Mr. Mustard
Always shouts out something obscene
I suppose at 93 there isn't much else to look forward to except a good poop.
I guess she figures why not share.
Mean Mr. Mustard
Always shouts out something obscene
bet theyre dry and dusty
Id talk about them too if they were dry and dusty
Id talk about them too if they were dry and dusty
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