you cant very well feel what someone else feels.
if Sally feels someone attacked her, how can YOU say she wasn't? you aren't in Sally's head and sally heart and in sally's salty tears.
just because its not a big deal to you, it doesnt mean its not a big deal to Sally.
sally is a self-appointed victim. Victim-ism!
It's like age-ism, sexism, racism, jism. It all sucks unless you're the one giving it.