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Maureen said:
so while i agree with this with every fibre in my being, the S/O is seeing this as “how dare you not trust me”

boundaries boundaries boundaries is the # 1 here

and if someone isn’t comfortable one should respect that and move on.


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Yup. The SO needs to examine why they have such shit trust issues and a need to control and smash boundaries. It's not your problem, it's theirs.
 
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Floptical said:
sheeet that bitch don't need to know my positive stuff

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so would you find it odd if your s/o DEMANDED your blood work results be sent to her


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Dory said:
Yup. The SO needs to examine why they have such shit trust issues and a need to control and smash boundaries. It's not your problem, it's theirs.
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i see this totally as a control issue.
while i don’t think S/O doubts the findings of the blood work as S/O has been very involved in multiple doctor appointments, i truly feel this is simply a control issue over a trust issue


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Maureen said:
i see this totally as a control issue.
while i don’t think S/O doubts the findings of the blood work as S/O has been very involved in multiple doctor appointments, i truly feel this is simply a control issue over a trust issue


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Fuck that. He needs to address his insecurities not take them out on you with controlling behaviour and demands. I don't compromise on those points. Their issue is their issue, not yours.
 
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Dory said:
Fuck that. He needs to address his insecurities not take them out on you with controlling behaviour and demands. I don't compromise on those points. Their issue is their issue, not yours.
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not arguing who’s issue this is. clearly it’s his.
i just think it’s more on the controlling side


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Dory said:
If you offered them up willingly to begin with its not a trust thing.. The guilt trip and shit test about it when that's your boundary is the issue.
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offered to sit down and go over them together on the laptop like we have OTHER TIMES.
there is nothing to hide.
just have a real big issue with someone (anyone) walking around with my blood work results.

that’s insane to me


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Maureen said:
not arguing who’s issue this is. clearly it’s his.
i just think it’s more on the controlling side


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I'll be honest I can't think of a single time I cared to ever get a result from a partner. I knew if it was something I needed to know they would share it with me.
 
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Maureen said:
offered to sit down and go over them together on the laptop like we have OTHER TIMES.
there is nothing to hide.
just have a real big issue with someone (anyone) walking around with my blood work results.

that’s insane to me


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It is coercive control
You are not comfortable
He is pushing that boundary and disrespecting your boundaries. That's not okay or healthy.

No is a complete sentence.
 
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Maureen said:
and if you POLITELY denied forwarding this information for your own personal reasons, how would you calmly handle an barrage of messages accusing YOU of having trust issues


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Ignore. Let the adult have a tantrum. Do not engage with irrational attitudes til they're in a space to listen and communicate as an adult and then accept your personal autonomy. You can choose whether to reply or engage with such behaviour.
 
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Maureen said:
and if you POLITELY denied forwarding this information for your own personal reasons, how would you calmly handle an barrage of messages accusing YOU of having trust issues


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I would question the reason they needed to know it in the first place. Hell even myself and Mrs Flop have seperate bank accounts at different banks. Yes we share all the money and have access to the other account but I don't give a shit what she spends her money and does. We discuss large purchases but she's still a free woman to make her own choices.
 
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Dory said:
Ignore. Let the adult have a tantrum. Do not engage with irrational attitudes til they're in a space to listen and communicate as an adult and then accept your personal autonomy. You can choose whether to reply or engage with such behaviour.
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love this!

ignore is my favourite thing to do and do it often


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Maureen said:
love this!

ignore is my favourite thing to do and do it often


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Yup. You are only ever responsible for your own choices and behaviour, not anyone else's. If you decline to engage then that's their ball game, not yours. You engage with people in equal terms as adults, not when one behaves as a child.
 
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