why are people mean?

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F33nX said:
sigh, might as well explain...

there are a melange of people: some who have never met me, some who are acquainted with me and think they know me but really don't, and some who i would have considered to be my best friends, who have basically in the past 2 months ganged up on me and told me that the world would be better off if i either died in a horrible accident or killed myself. they harangue me everyday on another forum that was designed for our group of friends to stay in touch after we went our seperate ways, and yet i feel compelled to stay there because for some of us, it's the only way to stay in touch.

there was a pretty cataclysmic event that happened in may of this year that rended a lot of our friendships, which we all silently recognized would be patched over time as we all were acclimated to our new environments away from where we all lived. however, this group of people is so determined to ruin every friendship, every bond i have made with their group of friends that they've done everything except directly threaten me. i seriously fail to understand why, as what happened in may probably affected me the most negatively out of everyone to begin with. i've tried ignoring, they've called me a coward or insisted that i agree with their ridiculous epithets. no matter what i say in my defense, its warped and used against me. only today, two months after this started, has one person who i'd consider to still be my friend finally try to defend me. at this point, looking at this tableau that's been created on this other forum, i'm just fucking ready to give up on humanity.

too long, didn't care? understandable:p

I would say that makes no sense, except I've seen a similar pattern in some cases in the past. Again, I'm forming an opinion based only on what I see here, knowing nothing of anything else that may be involved.

It seems that often when a group is involved they will choose one member and just pick that person to pieces. I've heard that happens with chickens (the birds :p ), that often one chicken will be pecked at by the rest of the flock, sometimes until they actually kill the victim. This is supposed to be where the phrase "pecking order" came from, dunno how accurate that is, but it's what I've heard anyway. It seems to work that way with groups of people, one person is often at the bottom of the pecking order for whatever reason and is just pecked to death, figuratively speaking. It may be irrational, unreasonable, and cruel, but it seems to happen.
 

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F33nX said:
sigh, might as well explain...

there are a melange of people: some who have never met me, some who are acquainted with me and think they know me but really don't, and some who i would have considered to be my best friends, who have basically in the past 2 months ganged up on me and told me that the world would be better off if i either died in a horrible accident or killed myself. they harangue me everyday on another forum that was designed for our group of friends to stay in touch after we went our seperate ways, and yet i feel compelled to stay there because for some of us, it's the only way to stay in touch.

there was a pretty cataclysmic event that happened in may of this year that rended a lot of our friendships, which we all silently recognized would be patched over time as we all were acclimated to our new environments away from where we all lived. however, this group of people is so determined to ruin every friendship, every bond i have made with their group of friends that they've done everything except directly threaten me. i seriously fail to understand why, as what happened in may probably affected me the most negatively out of everyone to begin with. i've tried ignoring, they've called me a coward or insisted that i agree with their ridiculous epithets. no matter what i say in my defense, its warped and used against me. only today, two months after this started, has one person who i'd consider to still be my friend finally try to defend me. at this point, looking at this tableau that's been created on this other forum, i'm just fucking ready to give up on humanity.

too long, didn't care? understandable:p
AHAHAHAHAH! That's so vague. You might as well tell them the full story or you're going to leave everyone here thinking WTF?
 

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theacoustician said:
AHAHAHAHAH! That's so vague. You might as well tell them the full story or you're going to leave everyone here thinking WTF?
maybe later. i don't want to start crying at work.
 
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I think 2 and 3 will apply to most people that are mean.


dreamwalker said:
Oh boy, there are a lot of possible answers to this, I'm going to be a bit random here.

1. Some people give what they get, i.e. if people have been mean to them they become mean, if people have been nice to them they become nice. These people are like societal mirrors, you see in them what you have been to them.
2. Some people are nasty because they feel that they have to prove something, that they are better, more important, etc. than whoever they are dealing with, sort of the "I can get away with it because I'm better" mentality.
3. Some people are mean because they enjoy the feeling of power over someone else, if they can humiliate or hurt another person that proves to them that they can influence others even if it is in a negative way.
4. The old thing about some kids preferring negative attention over being ignored? It's true, also with some so-called adults.
5. Some people want to prove that they can be mean but people will love them anyway, kind of a pushing people as far away as possible but pulling them back in an alternating pattern.
6. Some people are just plain bastards or bitches, for whatever reason may exist in their twisted little minds, or whatever passes for a mind anyway.
 

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theacoustician said:
:(

Don't cry. I :heart: you!
you're like the only person outside of the group of people affected by this that really knows what's going on. please try not to use it against me:p
:heart:
 

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F33nX said:
you're like the only person outside of the group of people affected by this that really knows what's going on. please try not to use it against me:p
:heart:
I'm sorry you think I was using it against you. Not my intent at all. :(
 

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theacoustician said:
I'm sorry you think I was using it against you. Not my intent at all. :(
i know hon. i've been pretty vunerable with all the other lame shit that's going on in my life, and i've been given no respite over anything. my tolerance for anything is like 0 right now:( :heart:
 

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ChikkenNoodul said:
I name the whisky, you name the people and address.

:shady:
stooping down to their level is not my idea of closure on this.
but i'll gladly take up your offer of whiskey any day of the week:heart:
 

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F33nX said:
sigh, might as well explain...

there are a melange of people: some who have never met me, some who are acquainted with me and think they know me but really don't, and some who i would have considered to be my best friends, who have basically in the past 2 months ganged up on me and told me that the world would be better off if i either died in a horrible accident or killed myself. they harangue me everyday on another forum that was designed for our group of friends to stay in touch after we went our seperate ways, and yet i feel compelled to stay there because for some of us, it's the only way to stay in touch.

there was a pretty cataclysmic event that happened in may of this year that rended a lot of our friendships, which we all silently recognized would be patched over time as we all were acclimated to our new environments away from where we all lived. however, this group of people is so determined to ruin every friendship, every bond i have made with their group of friends that they've done everything except directly threaten me. i seriously fail to understand why, as what happened in may probably affected me the most negatively out of everyone to begin with. i've tried ignoring, they've called me a coward or insisted that i agree with their ridiculous epithets. no matter what i say in my defense, its warped and used against me. only today, two months after this started, has one person who i'd consider to still be my friend finally try to defend me. at this point, looking at this tableau that's been created on this other forum, i'm just fucking ready to give up on humanity.

too long, didn't care? understandable:p
If all this is being said on the internet, why do you let it affect you so much?
 

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April23 said:
If all this is being said on the internet, why do you let it affect you so much?
because these are people i know in real life. like i said, some used to be my best friends, others are people i've known in passing, and some are people that know the others but i've never met and are just getting in on the action
some of this has also been said outside of the forum environment too.
 

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F33nX said:
i know hon. i've been pretty vunerable with all the other lame shit that's going on in my life, and i've been given no respite over anything. my tolerance for anything is like 0 right now:( :heart:
I was just thinking it was funny cause I know what's going on and what you're talking about, but reading your posts for someone not knowing what's going on it must seem pretty incoherent.

Just dont worry about the haters. Fuck em. Fuck em all. Join the freaks and :gloerf:s here at UF. We :heart: you.
 

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F33nX said:
because these are people i know in real life. like i said, some used to be my best friends, others are people i've known in passing, and some are people that know the others but i've never met and are just getting in on the action
some of this has also been said outside of the forum environment too.
So used to be best friends and aquaintences. Maybe its just me but if someone is trying to bring me down they get ignored and sometimes if they are lucky an eye roll. I'm big on the carefree way of looking at things, why give them the satisfaction of knowing that you are that stressed and it bothers you that much. I wouldn't give someone anything if they treated me like that.