I find it confusing that you let what you do in the bedroom define you as a person. There is more to you than that. I'm sure you do more with your time than just have sex. It's the same kind of annoyance I have for people who define themselves by their skin color. I don't walk around thinking that the most important thing about me is that I'm a white bisexual female. In fact, I rarely think of it at all. I'd say more but I'm being attacked by a kitten.