My grandmother died 6 years ago. 6 months before she died we had moved in with her to take care of her (my husband, kids and I as well as my mother). She passed away unexpectedly and we had done quite a bit of work to the house so we decided to stay here and my husband and I are buying the house from the estate. After she died family slowly took items they wanted, the dining room set, the China, the bedroom furniture, entertainement center, 150 year old piano, etc. As we got rid of things, like a couch or such we'd always offer it to the family.
We retained a few things here and there, a couple book cases, a pie safe, some end tables. Almost everything in the house now is furniture my husband and I had or have bought over the years. A few months after she died I asked family to come help sort her room and various things. We donated clothes, and boxed up all the items we wanted to keep. That same day my aunt took all of the boxes we had all packed to her house and said we could sort it later. 6 years and she has it all, jewelry, keepsakes etc. She is the oldest of my grandparents kids. Over the years she has mentioned and taken items here and there, she wanted Amber glass which I had given to another Aunt who hadn't taken much.
Now really there isn't much left in the house but Christmas Eve night she said oh I wonder where a specific cook book is. Well after my grandma passed away the cook books went to the garage for awhile. Eventually I sorted them and kept what I wanted and no one responded when I offered the cook books. Now it's been 6 years and my aunt declared she wants a specific book, which is on my shelf. I ignored her asking my mom and honestly my mom doesn't have a clue where it is, she doesn't cook. I'm sort of annoyed because this aunts family has taken way more than anyone (and it's not because the were in need). My one uncle took some books, my other aunt has the China, Amber glass and the tea set. This Aunts family took the antique piano, entertainment center, dining set, bedroom set, dining room mirror, office furniture etc.
I don't want to be mean about it but I'm tired of people declaring they want things. It's been 6 years. Had it not been that my husband and I bought the house it would have all been sorted and tossed years ago.
Is there a polite way to say please stop asking for things?
We retained a few things here and there, a couple book cases, a pie safe, some end tables. Almost everything in the house now is furniture my husband and I had or have bought over the years. A few months after she died I asked family to come help sort her room and various things. We donated clothes, and boxed up all the items we wanted to keep. That same day my aunt took all of the boxes we had all packed to her house and said we could sort it later. 6 years and she has it all, jewelry, keepsakes etc. She is the oldest of my grandparents kids. Over the years she has mentioned and taken items here and there, she wanted Amber glass which I had given to another Aunt who hadn't taken much.
Now really there isn't much left in the house but Christmas Eve night she said oh I wonder where a specific cook book is. Well after my grandma passed away the cook books went to the garage for awhile. Eventually I sorted them and kept what I wanted and no one responded when I offered the cook books. Now it's been 6 years and my aunt declared she wants a specific book, which is on my shelf. I ignored her asking my mom and honestly my mom doesn't have a clue where it is, she doesn't cook. I'm sort of annoyed because this aunts family has taken way more than anyone (and it's not because the were in need). My one uncle took some books, my other aunt has the China, Amber glass and the tea set. This Aunts family took the antique piano, entertainment center, dining set, bedroom set, dining room mirror, office furniture etc.
I don't want to be mean about it but I'm tired of people declaring they want things. It's been 6 years. Had it not been that my husband and I bought the house it would have all been sorted and tossed years ago.
Is there a polite way to say please stop asking for things?
