also keep in mind my mom is bat shit insaine. Shes in constant pain and this makes her lash out at people and say hurtfull things. Ive learned to ignore it.
well it was kind of a crazy move. They moved in to this bigass house that was way to much for them to handle (mom is physically limited). My sister and her family moved in with them. Then around 18 months later, they sold their place and had to be out by a certin date. So they bought a new home, moved all their crap over there, then it kind of fell through. So then everything was moved from there to an apartment. Then a few months later it was moved into their current place.
so thats 4 moves in like 3 years or so. Sucks.
It's a very easy problem to solve. Have Christmas at your place and tell both families if they want to see you then come over. Otherwise you'll see them some other time.Well actually this came up after his mom called last night and made some rude comments about the amount of time we spend with my family at Christmas versus their family. And she was upset that we were goign to my mothers house in the morning before coming to their house. She suggested that we come to their house at 10 am which would cut the time we would be at my mothers to about 30 minutes. It only a small part of an ongoing conflict and general feeling that his family does not like me. His mom has a tendency to call and say rather hurtful things, so about 2 months ago we went over to their house to discuss the issues and it became this big fight that we were attacking them.
We had to move my grandmother's things from her storage locker to nursing home to an apartment to another nursing home to her current nursing home (the original actually) all within 2 years. Granted it is not a whole household of stuff. I didn't get a dime. I got a guilt trip for not helping out with two of the moves instead.
It's a very easy problem to solve. Have Christmas at your place and tell both families if they want to see you then come over. Otherwise you'll see them some other time.
I personally hate the holidays for all this forced spending time with families crap. All it seems to do for most people is add stress to their life.
I got a guilt trip for not helping my sister and brother-in-law move from their old place to their current home. Didnt bother me. Had things to do and i couldnt exactly drop my plans.
My family is a call you at the last second and expect you to drop everything kind of family. Didnt bother me when i was single and didnt have anything to do, but ive got my own family now.
It's a very easy problem to solve. Have Christmas at your place and tell both families if they want to see you then come over. Otherwise you'll see them some other time.
I personally hate the holidays for all this forced spending time with families crap. All it seems to do for most people is add stress to their life.
Not really sure because when they moved the year before that we helped do all the moving and my husband sister and her husbadn were not around once. And we never got paid.
Families suck
You pay a moving company, not your family.
Then they're the one's making the choice not to see you. The burden is off of you to worry about it.See that wouldn't work because his mother said that if we were having a party and my family was invited, not to invite them as they wouldn't come. I actually learned this when they called the day of my sons 1st birthday and said they weren't coming that we could just do something the next day. A few months later we had a 4th of July party and although his family all RSVP's only his father came over for a little bit.
You pay a moving company, not your family.
See that wouldn't work because his mother said that if we were having a party and my family was invited, not to invite them as they wouldn't come. I actually learned this when they called the day of my sons 1st birthday and said they weren't coming that we could just do something the next day. A few months later we had a 4th of July party and although his family all RSVP's only his father came over for a little bit.
You're making his family sound not very nice. Families are so much fun.
See that wouldn't work because his mother said that if we were having a party and my family was invited, not to invite them as they wouldn't come. I actually learned this when they called the day of my sons 1st birthday and said they weren't coming that we could just do something the next day. A few months later we had a 4th of July party and although his family all RSVP's only his father came over for a little bit.
so basically what you are saying is that your husband's parents suck
My suggestion to you is to tell her exactly what problems you have and don't sugar coat it. Keep telling her every time there is a problem, and do it immediately when the issue starts. Don't sit around and let it bother you for weeks or years before you bring it up. That's not healthy for anyone.