My husband and I got into a discussion last night stemming from some comments his mother has made recently about my family that are upsetting me. His mother is constantly saying she treats us all equal and doesn’t play favorites. This is an issue we are not seeing eye to eye on so I thought I would ask you all.
Before Christmas 2 years ago, my in-laws sold their house and had to move the week before Christmas. It was as usual no notice and I had prior responsibility to work at my job as a private cook. I was also 4 months pregnant and would not be much help moving. They moved late in the evening for 4 or 5 nights all of which I was at work. My husband and his sister and her husband helped his parents move. Mind you my husbands sister and brother-in-law lived with them so it would be a given they would help move. I did help the last night in which we were out until 3 am in 10 degree weather. When they sold the house they made a decent profit and had some extra money. So come Christmas my husband, his sister and her husband each got $500 in the first gift they opened. I received a $100 gift card to a store. My husbands niece and nephew also received $100 each in cash and were never around for the move. I felt it was not right. He says it was payment for helping move, but I don't think it should have been presented that way. They made it this hugh deal about the money being a gift. I feel that if they wanted to pay them for helping move it should not have been done Christmas morning. Opinions?
Before Christmas 2 years ago, my in-laws sold their house and had to move the week before Christmas. It was as usual no notice and I had prior responsibility to work at my job as a private cook. I was also 4 months pregnant and would not be much help moving. They moved late in the evening for 4 or 5 nights all of which I was at work. My husband and his sister and her husband helped his parents move. Mind you my husbands sister and brother-in-law lived with them so it would be a given they would help move. I did help the last night in which we were out until 3 am in 10 degree weather. When they sold the house they made a decent profit and had some extra money. So come Christmas my husband, his sister and her husband each got $500 in the first gift they opened. I received a $100 gift card to a store. My husbands niece and nephew also received $100 each in cash and were never around for the move. I felt it was not right. He says it was payment for helping move, but I don't think it should have been presented that way. They made it this hugh deal about the money being a gift. I feel that if they wanted to pay them for helping move it should not have been done Christmas morning. Opinions?