Srs topic itt.
So I've been informed of a situation where someone I know has cheated on her husband (why she confided in me, I have no idea). And before you try to guess who, no, it wasn't mrs toast. Anyway, the person that cheated hasn't been officially diagnosed, but I'm fairly certain she is somewhere on the Autism Spectrum. She is probably somewhere near what used to be called Aspergers syndrome. She's quite intelligent in many areas although because of her ASD, she has a difficult time in social environments, many times saying inappropriate things, acting different than most would in certain situations, and most of all not being able to relate to others without having the exact experience herself. One of her biggest issues is her inability to be satisfied with quality relationships, in both friends and romantic partners. This seems to cause a disassociation from her actions and the status of the relationship, including the emotions of her partner.
Her partner, who is also a little "off" (meant without disrespect, I simply can't put my finger on a real definition) is completely oblivious to the idea of infidelity in their relationship, and is dealing with his own psychological issues on a daily basis, mostly related to his childhood and his relationship with his father.
So I'm at a crossroads... He deserves to know the truth, however in telling him, it will destroy their relationship, and most likely drive the wife to a very unhealthy area. Knowing her situation, and her past actions, it wouldn't be a surprise if this drove her to suicide by anorexia. She would hate herself forever and punish herself because she won't be able to get over the fact that she's done something terrible (a common limitation of ASD) without truly understanding the consequences of her actions and how that has affected him.
I've considered the idea that I suggest to her mother (whom she is very close with) that she go see a therapist to help her deal with certain situations, and expressing a concern in her relationship with her husband and how she can learn to deal with and understand his psychological issues surrounding his drinking habits and possible inattention to her while at home.
That's all I have. Anyone else have experience in something like this or have any ideas or suggestions?
So I've been informed of a situation where someone I know has cheated on her husband (why she confided in me, I have no idea). And before you try to guess who, no, it wasn't mrs toast. Anyway, the person that cheated hasn't been officially diagnosed, but I'm fairly certain she is somewhere on the Autism Spectrum. She is probably somewhere near what used to be called Aspergers syndrome. She's quite intelligent in many areas although because of her ASD, she has a difficult time in social environments, many times saying inappropriate things, acting different than most would in certain situations, and most of all not being able to relate to others without having the exact experience herself. One of her biggest issues is her inability to be satisfied with quality relationships, in both friends and romantic partners. This seems to cause a disassociation from her actions and the status of the relationship, including the emotions of her partner.
Her partner, who is also a little "off" (meant without disrespect, I simply can't put my finger on a real definition) is completely oblivious to the idea of infidelity in their relationship, and is dealing with his own psychological issues on a daily basis, mostly related to his childhood and his relationship with his father.
So I'm at a crossroads... He deserves to know the truth, however in telling him, it will destroy their relationship, and most likely drive the wife to a very unhealthy area. Knowing her situation, and her past actions, it wouldn't be a surprise if this drove her to suicide by anorexia. She would hate herself forever and punish herself because she won't be able to get over the fact that she's done something terrible (a common limitation of ASD) without truly understanding the consequences of her actions and how that has affected him.
I've considered the idea that I suggest to her mother (whom she is very close with) that she go see a therapist to help her deal with certain situations, and expressing a concern in her relationship with her husband and how she can learn to deal with and understand his psychological issues surrounding his drinking habits and possible inattention to her while at home.
That's all I have. Anyone else have experience in something like this or have any ideas or suggestions?
