Okay, but that is not the most immediate issue here: a person with these mental problems should not be babysitting children. I can't conceive of the potential anguish that is just waiting around the corner.
Unless of course, the issue has been over stated and all we really have is a pushy mother-in-law who takes medication. Only the people involved know the truth. But if she is what it appears she is... well, never let a young child in her care. The person who does so, knowing her problems, is equally culpable if something happens; and something will happen.
shes not institutional crazy. but her meds have messed with her head in the fact that she cant control her emotions some times.
The short version: It all started in '86 when a disk in her neck exploded inwards into her spine. She was paralyzed from the waste down for a bit, but eventually was able to walk again. Every so often, the nerves in her leg would wake up, causing a pain that she describes as "when your leg wakes up, you get that tingling feeling that makes it not too present to move your leg. multiply that pain by 1000 and that what she goes through". Eventually this feeling lasted with her almost all the time, so the docs doped her up real good.
She got better for a bit, went to college in the early 90's became a teacher and worked for 7 years before her body began to give out.
Her immune system is shot, so she lost a toe to cellulites, but the infection didnt go away completely and fights that. Her toes eventually began to curl under her feet, so she had pins put in. She wears leg braces to help her ankles when shes out and about. A cage was put in her neck around her spine to keep the vertebra in place. Now a days, shes losing feeling in her fingers and more bulging disks were found in her neck and lower back.
Her emotional issues stem from not living the life she wants to live. She was always the socialite. A go go goer. Full of energy and pep and it kills her she cant do everything she wants to do. Shes stuck at home alone most of the time since my dad still works and all of her babies are out of the nest. Im sure there are other underlying issues, but i dont know everything.
The meds make her a bit unstable when it comes to dealing with people. Shes pushy, crass and is the im always right person. Shes also alienated her friends, which compound the problem. When shes in pain, she is downright nasty (which i inherited, and try to keep in check), and she realizes it hurts the people around her, but she doesnt do anything about it untill confronted. Then she just breaks down and crys, because she knows what she did was wrong, she just cant control it some days. And she does keep herself in check a lot. She has very high willpower and never complains about hurting.
Its a very complicated situation. She loves all her grand kids and i think its the only thing that keeps her going some days. I trust her to watch our son, since a 2 year old doesnt require to be coodeled and coddled. I know she would never do anything to hurt him. But i have reservations about having her watch our second when Hifi goes back to work. I know she can look after a 6 week old, but with the recent goings on with her condition, im not so sure i would feel comfortable with her watching the baby. She would never hurt it on purpose, but accidents do happen. And if her arms gave out while she was carrying my child and he/she got hurt, i would never forgive myself or my mom.