spange and i have a friend who is now a widow and a single father of an eight-year-old. his wife died almost a year ago from complications with cystic fibrosis. she was a close friend of mine, and i just don't know what to do. i know that she would want SOMEone to be able to help and i don't have a clue.
"gus" has totally lost it. he doesn't care about anything or anyone, including his own daughter. he has new, bad friends who come and go, spend the night over at the house...he gets drunk constantly and has had two DUIs in the past month. god knows what else he could be doing...drugs were an issue years ago for him, before he met and married "betsy." she was the best thing that ever happened to him, and now that she's gone, i honestly think he's waiting to die himself. he's so blinded with grief, depression, emptiness and fear that he can't even care for his own daughter...and i know he loves her very much. he doesn't even believe in himself or know how to handle this that he is waiting for someone to take her away from him because he knows he's no good for her. she has slept in her closet because she was so scared of some guy that has slept over before. what the fuck does that mean?
so WHAT DO I DO? i know his daughter is terrified and lost and losing trust in her own father, and all the while trying to grieve for the loss of her mother. i know gus ultimately does not want what he's doing, but nothing can reach him. our friends have screamed, threatened, cried, offered help, whatever they can to get to him. he refuses any treatment or any kind of help. if he doesn't stop NOW he's going to lose it all, and i don't know what that will do to him. he's a good guy who has lost his world and is about to sacrifice the other one. i can't bear this and i am totally lost in how to help. does anyone have any suggestions for this? who can i go to professionally that might be able to help? what can i do for her? can he be put away in a rehab program against his will? i am so scared and so upset i can't even think straight. it makes me sick.
"gus" has totally lost it. he doesn't care about anything or anyone, including his own daughter. he has new, bad friends who come and go, spend the night over at the house...he gets drunk constantly and has had two DUIs in the past month. god knows what else he could be doing...drugs were an issue years ago for him, before he met and married "betsy." she was the best thing that ever happened to him, and now that she's gone, i honestly think he's waiting to die himself. he's so blinded with grief, depression, emptiness and fear that he can't even care for his own daughter...and i know he loves her very much. he doesn't even believe in himself or know how to handle this that he is waiting for someone to take her away from him because he knows he's no good for her. she has slept in her closet because she was so scared of some guy that has slept over before. what the fuck does that mean?
so WHAT DO I DO? i know his daughter is terrified and lost and losing trust in her own father, and all the while trying to grieve for the loss of her mother. i know gus ultimately does not want what he's doing, but nothing can reach him. our friends have screamed, threatened, cried, offered help, whatever they can to get to him. he refuses any treatment or any kind of help. if he doesn't stop NOW he's going to lose it all, and i don't know what that will do to him. he's a good guy who has lost his world and is about to sacrifice the other one. i can't bear this and i am totally lost in how to help. does anyone have any suggestions for this? who can i go to professionally that might be able to help? what can i do for her? can he be put away in a rehab program against his will? i am so scared and so upset i can't even think straight. it makes me sick.