Well there's no such thing as bad bbq and all the sauces have some amount of sugar but given a choice I prefer the more peppery tangy types over the sweet types.Same here on the sugar. Neither my wife or I have ever been soda drinkers, I in particular am a "once a year" on pop. Not using any sugar in my holiday meal and they will never know - erythritol. Perfect clean flavor, just takes 30% more by volume. Useless for things that need to carmelize - I've tried to make BBQ sauce but it won't bubble or glaze the same. Fine for pie or cake though.
Calorie cutter #2: we use powdered coffee creamer. There is almost a lb of fat in a large container. I mix it 5/50 with fat-free powdered milk.
Mostly powdered coffee creamer here too though occasionally a little splash of milk or half-n-half. The old lady is a sweet-n-low person. I'm not convinced it's any better for you than sugar, probably just bad in different ways but it is what it is. Ain't worth dying on that hill.