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So my wife is pretty sure she has Fibromyalgia. All the symptoms describe her perfectly.


Specific symptoms:

* Body aches
* Chronic facial muscle pain or aching
* Fatigue
* Irritable bowel syndrome
* Memory difficulties and cognitive difficulties
* Multiple tender areas (muscle and joint pain) on the back of the neck, shoulders, sternum, lower back, hips, shins, elbows, knees
* Numbness and tingling
* Palpitations
* Reduced exercise tolerance
* Sleep disturbances
* Tension or migraine headaches

https://health.google.com/health/ref/Fibromyalgia
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Fibromyalgia

" Fibromyalgia is estimated to affect 2-4% of the population,[7] with a female to male incidence ratio of approximately 9:1.[10]

Fibromyalgia is considered a controversial diagnosis, lacking scientific consensus as to its cause.[11] Many members of the medical community do not consider fibromyalgia a disease because of a lack of abnormalities on physical examination and the absence of objective diagnostic tests.[11][12]

While historically considered either a musculoskeletal disease or neuropsychiatric condition, evidence from research conducted in the last three decades has revealed abnormalities within the central nervous system affecting brain regions that may be linked both to clinical symptoms and research phenomena.[8] These studies show a correlation, but not causation.[12] Some research suggests that alterations in the central nervous system might be the result of childhood stress, or prolonged or severe stress.[8] Although there is as yet no cure for fibromyalgia, some treatments have been demonstrated by controlled clinical trials to be effective in reducing symptoms, including medications, behavioral interventions, patient education, and exercise."

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I've been trying to explain to her that even though the symptoms are real it is not a real disease in the true sense. It doesn't show up in blood work or lab tests. It's your body's reaction to long term deep depression so treat the depression and the other stuff will vanish. She just refuses to hear what I'm telling her. I keep trying to explain that if you take steps to fight depression such as vitamins, exercise, or things to increase your cognitive abilities (get rid of head fog) then the symptoms will decrease. Or as my dad would put it "Pull your head out of your ass" and be proactive things would get better. It's so damn frustrating. She thinks I'm nuts because I've in a better overall mood lately and I keep telling her because the piracetam got rid of any head fog, so I better see how nuts everything is and it's easier for me to laugh it off lately.

I asked my 8 year old son who he thought was crazier between the two of us and he calmly said "Dad, mom is nuts." I love that boy.
 

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They treat that (off label) with Xyrem. Xyrem is also known on the street as GHB.

1 + 2 = :drool:


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I asked my 8 year old son who he thought was crazier between the two of us and he calmly said "Dad, mom is nuts." I love that boy.
With all due respect, is asking your child to choose between his parents a secure and mature thing to do? That doesn't sound healthy at all.
 
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Fibromyalgia is considered a controversial diagnosis, lacking scientific consensus as to its cause.[11] Many members of the medical community do not consider fibromyalgia a disease because of a lack of abnormalities on physical examination and the absence of objective diagnostic tests.[11][12]
Thats all you really need to know, right there.
 

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A lot of those symptoms, even in tandem, could mean many other illnesses. In fact, I deal with all of those issues at some time.

Nevertheless, it's manageable to the extent that she will be fully functional as a human and no reason to cry and whinge that she can't continue doing everyday life responsibilities. (I know someone like this).
Be prepared for tons of whining.
 

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The problem is that the people feel too miserable to try and help themselves.

Not sure what the solution is.

It's hard for me to get back into an exercise routine, so I imagine it's exceedingly difficult for the depressed.

I know how hard it is to fight depression better than most people. I get massive bouts out of no where sometimes for no reason besides screwy brain chemistry. I just trying to explain that you can't just sit around sleeping nonstop waiting for it to pass. That just makes it worse. You have to force yourself to go out and do healthy activities to get your brain to stop depressing your body functions. It's hard as hell sometimes but eventually it always helps. She gets sick nonstop and I don't and I keep explaining that I have learned how to fight off depression to prevent me from being suicidal.
 

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A lot of those symptoms, even in tandem, could mean many other illnesses. In fact, I deal with all of those issues at some time.

Nevertheless, it's manageable to the extent that she will be fully functional as a human and no reason to cry and whinge that she can't continue doing everyday life responsibilities. (I know someone like this).
Be prepared for tons of whining.

She's a nonstop whinner. She has major daddy issues and I keep saying you have to face them head on with therapy and talking to your dad rather than just drugs from a doctor. You have to fix the root of the problem.
 

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She's a nonstop whinner. She has major daddy issues and I keep saying you have to face them head on with therapy and talking to your dad rather than just drugs from a doctor. You have to fix the root of the problem.
I had major mom issues and it really affected me. A lot of things made me depressed. Dealing with my ex and his hideous wife and my kids with him...my oldest's issues with his father and how it affected him mentally, etc....Plus, not having a job was a KILLER. I felt like nothing being at home! Having the above issues and then not having a job made me feel worthless and not much made me actually happy.

Depression is reallllly tough when you have nothing to feel positive about it. She DOES need to get her ass to a doc and TALK THIS SHIT OUT, NOT numb it with drugs! That's just avoiding the real issues!
You need to change for YOU. She can't wait around and hope daddy, (or mommy in my case), will come around and make her feel happy again. It just doesn't work that way.
She needs to accept that, and stop letting her daddy rule her life and overall harmony. She has responsibilities in life, not only to stay mentally healthy so she can make the best decisions, but also as a mom and a wife. She needs to have the capacity to at least take care of the shit she NEEDS to do, because it's her job, not pawn it off on you, who goes to work every day.
 

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I appreciate the help guys. One reason I put up with her is because I know without me she just wouldn't make it on her own and even though she drives me totally nuts and makes my life very hard I just can't let anything like that happen to her. My sense of loyalty is one of my best and worst traits.
 
I appreciate the help guys. One reason I put up with her is because I know without me she just wouldn't make it on her own and even though she drives me totally nuts and makes my life very hard I just can't let anything like that happen to her. My sense of loyalty is one of my best and worst traits.
That loyalty thing is a Taurus thing supposedly.

If you believe in that hogswaller, that is.
 

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I just don't have the heart to look my son in the eyes and tell him his mom is a fuck up and that I gave up without trying everything possible first to help her. Being a dad really changes you.
 

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Doesn't Savannah have some decent swamps full of Alligators?

Just sayin'.
Oh I've thought about that way too often but once again I don't want to do anything to hurt my son. He's my main motivating factor in life. I fight off depression and go to work every day and do the things I have to do to make sure he is ok. Even if he drives me nuts I made the promise to do the best I could for him when he was born. In the end I just have to believe that that counts for something.