Exchange gurus....I need your help badly

Good call. We recently had our stupid Postini bullshit find a way to block BBerry activation messages. Fucking pisser to troubleshoot.

This was the worst "Spam" Filter I've seen though. Any email that get's sent to them, their SMTP server instantly puts in a request to send an email to the sender. If our Exchange server says the user exists, it just cuts the connection.

The part that's bad, is that it does this with every email. That's a hell of a lot of overhead to prevent spam.