I thought a lot about my relationship with the woman I want to marry.
I thought a lot about my past relationships and how I never gave anyone a chance to redeem themselves. The first time they messed up I kicked them to the curb. I thought about how I feel like such a jackass all the time because I love this woman so much I forgive her for things I would have dumped anyone else for. I thought a lot about how anal I was with everyone else. It made me want to apologize to all of my exes...but then I came back to myself and said "to hell with them" and dropped the idea.
Anyway, just venting/talking here today. Feeling like a jackass cause I care so much. Why does love make me feel stupid? Will anyone I am with be able to reflect the level of devotion and responsibility to love that I feel inside?
Damnit, it's always the pretty ones that kill ya.
BigDov said:Yes, you're right- but you're the only one that can determine if the changes are for real and permanent, or just band-aiding a bigger problem. You know what I mean??
NeedMoreEmo said:If she can improve then it won't be forever, and the fact that you're doubting it so much more than is normal in a relationship means things aren't working. You shouldn't be second guessing yourself and hoping she'll change, people don't change, they're always the same they just have blips.
Kevlar said:I know how you feel. I love someone in some ways that you discribe. Unfortunately he doesn't feel the same, even though I thought he might. So my feelings are wasted. I never thought I could forgive so much towards someone, but I have. I should never want to talk to or see him again, that's the way I always was before I met him, but that's not the case. I just can't imagine not having him in my life some how, some way. I wish he could hear my heart, I wish he knew. All I want is for him to be happy, so I step aside and try to say nothing.
Drool-Boy said:I say ya just bag the girl with the size D boobs
Detman101 said:That is also an option. She already has a kid too so I could go ahead with my vasectomy that I want to get without worry. AND she is into motorcycles as well!!!
coolDetman101 said:I am 28 as of Oct 16th.
I have been dating her for about a month and a half now.
I have loved her and been in-love with her for over a year before we began dating.
just wondering: have your feelings for her strengthened since you've been with her, meaning you care about her more now that you've been with her?
sometimes we admire things we can't have - I was crazy about a girl for like 8 years, she was a good friend and I loved her so much. one day I asked her if she wanted to start dating and it turned into a relationship - after about the 6th month I realized some of my feelings for her were just infatuation because she was so fucking hot. we weren't compatible at all as far as boyfriend and girlfriend went! I had to break it off
Detman101 said:My feelings for her have tripled since we have been together. I know that I love her and I am in love with her and that God put her in my life. I am going to ask a set of questions to her that will let me know if she feels the same way or if she is just "Infatuated" with me.
you're 28, so I'm sure you know all about the whole "honeymoon" phase in a relationship - don't you think it might be smart to let the relationship go its normal course for a bit, maybe spend a few months (or years) living together to see what's up?Detman101 said:My feelings for her have tripled since we have been together. I know that I love her and I am in love with her and that God put her in my life. I am going to ask a set of questions to her that will let me know if she feels the same way or if she is just "Infatuated" with me.
elpmis said:you're 28, so I'm sure you know all about the whole "honeymoon" phase in a relationship - don't you think it might be smart to let the relationship go its normal course for a bit, maybe spend a few months (or years) living together to see what's up?
I'm not trying to be negative because that's what people do online, you sound like a nice guy and I just don't want a fellow dude to have any troubles with anything