The Gypsy-The Acid Queen
- Dec 9, 2008
He has no way of doing any of the above mentioned w/o a job. I'm sick and tired of having so much gotdamnt pressure to do all from so many angles that I lax on doing it all.
But, when he walked over to a friends, knowing that I was out there working, that really struck home. So, my philosophy is, if he wants to be disrespectful, I will be the same, and that's that.
We go grocery shopping, I'm not getting any fun stuff. He needs a few dollars to do this or that? Too bad, sponge from friends and lose them. I just don't give a shit anymore about the petty bullshit.
Honestly, he would not follow it.. He does nothing.. Me and his mother are going to be taking everything off him very soon. Gonna leave him with a bed and some clothes..
he can take courses without a job. my friend has just started a 3 year Botany course a year after completing his BSc. He wasn't going to get a job with his biology degree, so taking a free course will allow him to train for licences easier. Paying for those may be hard, but i'd imagine most courses to do with the environment are subsidized - even in the US
you're right to not give a shit, but you will become obsessed over it. i'm not saying he "doesn't care about your feelings", but they aren't the most important thing to him.
the last time i went home i had to carry out amatuer tree surgery for my dad. i've lived away from home for 5 years and still did it without question. not helping you with something like that when he's doing nothing else is a bit ridiculous. give him a swift boot up the hole, it's trite but it's the only way he's going to learn.
Thx. All a good read.
get him a stack of post it notes. write what you want done on the first one.
tell him this is how things are done from now on. encouraging him to set goals should give him a bit more velocity in life.
i can understand his shiftlessness - well, actually i can't. sitting around all day for me is a byproduct of maybe only having class for 3 hours, but i feel pretty shit about it. if i had a list of things to do codified on paper, that's generally the only way i'll get things done..
try that anyway.