Thread Am I wrong at getting annoyed/mad at.....

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Morning Boehner
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a parent isn't a friend though. you should respect your parents, they should be role models, who you want to be when you grow up. not your equal or the tit to go suck on when things are tough.
 

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Bullshit. I liked my parents and I can guarantee no one here had stricter parents than I had.

Sure. You must have been a wise old sage to understand the lessons they gave when they told you no. :rolleyes:

Love them now for it? Sure.
 

TuhMollie

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a parent isn't a friend though. you should respect your parents, they should be role models, who you want to be when you grow up. not your equal or the tit to go suck on when things are tough.

im a parent when i need to be, im a friend when i need to be, im his choochoo train when he climbs on my back and begs me to crawl around the house while he giggles <3
i just think they have little personalities that should be taken into account.
sometimes he just doesnt want to eat. i try and get him to eat and he freaks out and wont eat... but im not going to turn into hitler til he inhales every bite... we all have our off days...kids included..
 

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Sure. You must have been a wise old sage to understand the lessons they gave when they told you no. :rolleyes:

Love them now for it? Sure.

I think I'm pretty sure I'm young enough to not forget what my feelings towards my parents were when I was a kid.
 

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:lol: You're right. You know more about my childhood than I do. And for time to heal wounds, you usually need something to forgive before you can say that.

I wasn't talking about your childhood, since you're the superhuman exception sir. I was only talking about the other 299,999,999 Americans. Try to keep up.
 

Applesauce

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He hasn't done any events here yet.. Last one he went to he traveled with friends to PA to attend.

I probably wouldn't go though if there were a local event.. Depends on my agenda, and my mood.

He's done a couple of events. The times he did the day roadtrips and weekenders. He now gets into those places for free, because he's that good, I guess.



ANYWAY - I've taken his Xbox out of his room yesterday. He was to help me clean up the broken branches and trees and leaves, etc. I worked my effing ass off, and he actually walked over to a friend's house. I thought he was home, but no. So I went up and took the Xbox, which he just got from trading his stupid iphone. There's a war now, and I've effing had it. That was just such bullshit. I'm dragging giant ass branches just to make an impact in the mess and he goes off to a friends. It's like I HAVE to remind him every fcking minute about something to do. I'm so beyond tired of everything.
 

Applesauce

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i really dont like how you worded this Liam. He is your step son.
heaven forbid you die in some australian flood while visiting your peepz and juli remarries, how would you want Em's step father to treat him?

its like you just wash your hands at HIS NOT MY KID.
yeah, technically hes not, but he IS your step son, you have all come together to become a family in that house and you have to care more than WHAT YOU MAKE IT OUT HERE... maybe you do... but you just paint a really heartless picture.

why would you kick him out at 18? i would never ever kick my child out. i would just help and guide and provide the tools to succeed. that is what being a parent is to ME... never giving up, no matter what.

It's definitely what we need in this house, more family minded attitudes.
 

polo

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i'm not reading 3 pages of back and forths...

1) do you charge him rent? if not, start.
2) what is his payment towards household utilities?
3) does he pay for his own food?
4) bombard him with courses to sign up for - you might not be able to get a job in this climate, but that's a good opportunity to make yourself more employable.
5) failing all this, kick him out.

there really is no other way to go about it. counselling won't help. reality needs to boot him up the cock.
 

OzSTEEZ

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I would charge him board, but that will just lead to issues of him not paying..

If thngs don't change by the time he turns 18 (about 9 months away), he'll be finding another place to live.
 

Applesauce

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i'm not reading 3 pages of back and forths...

1) do you charge him rent? if not, start.
2) what is his payment towards household utilities?
3) does he pay for his own food?
4) bombard him with courses to sign up for - you might not be able to get a job in this climate, but that's a good opportunity to make yourself more employable.
5) failing all this, kick him out.

there really is no other way to go about it. counselling won't help. reality needs to boot him up the cock.

He has no way of doing any of the above mentioned w/o a job. I'm sick and tired of having so much gotdamnt pressure to do all from so many angles that I lax on doing it all.

But, when he walked over to a friends, knowing that I was out there working, that really struck home. So, my philosophy is, if he wants to be disrespectful, I will be the same, and that's that.

We go grocery shopping, I'm not getting any fun stuff. He needs a few dollars to do this or that? Too bad, sponge from friends and lose them. I just don't give a shit anymore about the petty bullshit.
 

polo

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I would charge him board, but that will just lead to issues of him not paying..

If thngs don't change by the time he turns 18 (about 9 months away), he'll be finding another place to live.

give him a timeline until he hits 18. most of my friends are in their 20's and still leech. it has to be nipped in the bud. make them want their own place to get away from your rules.
 

OzSTEEZ

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give him a timeline until he hits 18. most of my friends are in their 20's and still leech. it has to be nipped in the bud. make them want their own place to get away from your rules.

Honestly, he would not follow it.. He does nothing.. Me and his mother are going to be taking everything off him very soon. Gonna leave him with a bed and some clothes..