The past couple of months have been nothing but change, and as such I've been taking a overhaul of my life and making changes where I deem necessary, I'm getting issues that have bothered me taken care of and basically taking the approach that if it wasn't helping me I'm willing to to cut it out like the cancer it is and move on. This brings me to the situation I just went through.
My ex roommate recently moved to Houston. Over the past year I met a few people through him, most of them were his ex high school friends. Some of them are pretty cool and all, but 90% of the time when we all hung out the topics were on items that they were all in on was because it was dealing with their time in school together. Thats fine, they all have a connection and there really isn't much I can do to become a part of that. I hung out as a courtesy and just zoned out most of the time when they were reliving their nostalgia. They partied often but out of the year of knowing them, I rarely if ever got a call from any of them to let me know of the upcoming plans. I didn't think anything of it at first, but after a while it started to get to me. No one treated me cold there or anything, but I still felt that I was being included since my roommate was their good friend.
So fast forward to now, I get a call from my roommate that they are having a party tomorrow and that I should go. As usual, they all worked it out and so forth and my roommate is relaying it to me. I told him, that I would go if they actually call and invite me myself. He tried to do the standard, "no its ok, they want you there" bit but I stood my ground and said, again "They can call me to ask me to come." My stance is that, hell they have my number, my gmail address and I'm 10 miles away from them, not 1000 miles like he is. Why is he still their proxy? I haven't heard a peep from anyone in over a month what am I supposed to do jump up and take this bone? I'm over that and if it means I have to cut off all contact until it stops then thats the price that has to be paid. its not like I'm missing that much in my eyes anyways.
Your thoughts?
My ex roommate recently moved to Houston. Over the past year I met a few people through him, most of them were his ex high school friends. Some of them are pretty cool and all, but 90% of the time when we all hung out the topics were on items that they were all in on was because it was dealing with their time in school together. Thats fine, they all have a connection and there really isn't much I can do to become a part of that. I hung out as a courtesy and just zoned out most of the time when they were reliving their nostalgia. They partied often but out of the year of knowing them, I rarely if ever got a call from any of them to let me know of the upcoming plans. I didn't think anything of it at first, but after a while it started to get to me. No one treated me cold there or anything, but I still felt that I was being included since my roommate was their good friend.
So fast forward to now, I get a call from my roommate that they are having a party tomorrow and that I should go. As usual, they all worked it out and so forth and my roommate is relaying it to me. I told him, that I would go if they actually call and invite me myself. He tried to do the standard, "no its ok, they want you there" bit but I stood my ground and said, again "They can call me to ask me to come." My stance is that, hell they have my number, my gmail address and I'm 10 miles away from them, not 1000 miles like he is. Why is he still their proxy? I haven't heard a peep from anyone in over a month what am I supposed to do jump up and take this bone? I'm over that and if it means I have to cut off all contact until it stops then thats the price that has to be paid. its not like I'm missing that much in my eyes anyways.
Your thoughts?