Might be better to not do it live as well. Send a letter/email/etc and let absorb it, then talk to her after a couple days
it's gonna be a no, I'm just trying to figure out how best to tell her no so that I have the least fallout.
Do not fall into playing games or getting sucked into her drama."so what's best for you and your family is to let me be on the streets, I must be so terrible, I can't believe you hate me so much that that's what's best for you, I must have been a really terrible mother, I'm so sorry, I should just make things easier for everyone"
This. Written communication takes out the emotion and potential for guilt and emotional blackmail.Might be better to not do it live as well. Send a letter/email/etc and let absorb it, then talk to her after a couple days
then she's going to think I'm in another situation like jihad with my ex where he's controlling me
she will still say I'm abandoning her, logic has no place in discussions with her.
I'm currently trying to find out info on low income housing in her area, but I know shes going to come back with a bunch of reasons why that can't work. I am definitely considering trying to figure out what we can send her that'll be enough to keep her there, & find a way to word it so that it's more me trying to keep her somewhere warm and familiar and less trying to keep her tf away from us.
Tell her no and then block her for at least 2 weeks. Fallout doesn't exist if you don't know it's there. I mean, what's she gonna do, cut you out of her will?it's gonna be a no, I'm just trying to figure out how best to tell her no so that I have the least fallout.
I’ve been through some shit@tre so wise
the plan tonight is to sit down with Jason and write out all the shit I need to have written down to refer to, some alternatives for her, and then send the whole thing in text form so it'll be harder to try to talk me out of it/cry/guilt me.
and then send it tonight - I don't want her to have false hope about it/string her along. and I have to be prepared to block her/go no contact if she gets combative or pushy.